Funeral Wake Etiquette in Singapore

Attending a funeral wake can be an emotional experience. Observing proper etiquette shows respect for the deceased and supports the bereaved family. Here are five important things to keep in mind:

1. Dress Appropriately
Wear simple, dark-coloured clothing. For women, avoid revealing attire such as miniskirts or shorts. Dressing modestly reflects respect for the occasion and the family.

2. Pay Your Respects First
Upon arrival, identify yourself to ensure you are at the correct wake. Approach the memorial table to pay your respects:

• If offering incense: Light a single stick and place it in the censer, then bow three times respectfully.
• If not using incense: Pause for a moment of silence and silently offer your well wishes to the deceased.

3. Offer Your Condolences
Monetary contributions at wakes depend on your relationship with the deceased and your personal circumstances.

• If you are receiving contributions, ensure that you return the same or a higher amount to those who contributed, maintaining the traditional courtesy.

4. Take a Red Thread
Traditionally, red candles were given as tokens of appreciation. Today, red threads are used instead and are placed in the tidbits tray on each table.

• Red threads symbolize auspiciousness and should be discarded before entering your home.

5. Be Helpful
Support the bereaved family through small acts of assistance. Examples include:

• Bringing food or snacks
• Folding joss paper
• Arranging tables and chairs
• Offering emotional support

Being considerate and helpful during a funeral wake shows compassion and respect.